“I’m so excited to be looking for a job!”
Have you ever come across anyone excited about the job search process? No – I didn’t think so. Don’t feel bad because it rarely evokes excitement on the hiring side, either – usually hiring managers and interviewers are stressed about the gap they are experiencing because of the job opening(s). Add on top of that, already being stretched too thin, they don’t have time to even think about what they need – much less how to assess and have time for interviews. This subsequently stresses out the recruiters who have to try to figure out what they are seeking, wade through a myriad of applicants that no one has time to interview or give feedback on – all while the applicants and hiring managers scream about nothing happening. Good grief.
No wonder no one involved is happy with the process or each other.
The job search process can be brutal – especially if you are not working, as you are likely also dealing with the stress or depression of the loss of your job or stream of income. When you are faced with the frustrations that happen on the Company, Recruiter, and Hiring Teams side, it is easy to let the depression fester even more. As a recruiter, I can’t tell you how many Applicants/Candidates I have interviewed where I can hear it in their voice, see it in their face, and – many times -actually face head on their anger, frustration, sadness, etc. – most of the time from the “beat down” they had felt before they even interview with us.
The Best Job Seeker Advice I Can Give
The best advice I can give you is to shake it off. Shake it off by:
1. Get out and talk to people – listen actively and learn, connect, engage, network
2. Help others – make connections, volunteer, give back
3. Take care of yourself – exercise regularly, eat right, get plenty of sleep, have fun, enjoy family and friends
4. Stay focused and methodical in your search – know what you want, where you want to do it and why, and most importantly how you add value
When You Shake it Off
Doing these things will give you the patience and mindset to shake off each and every bad interaction, lack of response, rejection, or unfair outcome. If you don’t do this, you could miss out on a great opportunity because nobody wants to work with Angry Anthony, Bitter Betty, or Eeyore – and trust me, if you are feeling this way, it is usually pretty easy to spot. You have to realize that every person you meet or speak with is just that – a unique individual – not a job title. Avoid lumping everyone into a category and assuming how they will act or feel because of their title or role in this process.
Stay positive and open that each new interaction could be an open door to something wonderful – and if it is not, then be comfortable, even happy, that door has shut because it wasn’t right. If you are truly staying focused and methodical in your job search, you will be interacting with the right companies resulting in the right meetings and interviews – which is ultimately going to help you GET that job!!
by Chris Havrilla
|Chris Havrilla has spent most of her HR career in corporate recruiting, leading recruiting functions and teams at companies like Hitachi, Eclipsys/Allscripts, Deloitte, and consulting with corporate recruiting teams for small businesses up to Fortune 100 companies. She is currently consulting through her own company Havrilla LLC, as well as working with the incredible team at Recruiting Toolbox. Chris holds a BBA in Management Information Systems and is an often-sought after speaker, writer, and advisor in the recruiting and HR industries. Chris is a regular contributor on the Jobsite.com blog.|
|Chris Havrilla was a guest on Jobsite Talk. Listen in on this great conversation about Work/Life Balance for the Virtual Employee.|